Asking for a Friend: Help! How do I know which school is best for me?
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- This week, we help a student who is thinking about changing schools, but isn’t sure if it is a good idea
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Dear Friend,
I study at a school I like very much, but I feel like there’s another one that might be more suitable for me. How do you know which school is best for you? Can you give me some advice about things I should look for?
Best, Suitable
Help! All my friends are emigrating and I feel lonely
Dear Suitable,
It sounds like you’re dealing with that age-old question: is the grass greener on the other side? The school you’re studying at now seems like a good fit, but can the other one offer you things your current one can’t? Here are a few things you should think about:
What benefits does it offer?
What attracts you to this new school? Is it the teachers, facilities, or reputation? First, think about what exactly appeals to you; this can give you a more concrete idea of what you desire in a school. Then, you can review your current school and see if it meets your needs.
The challenges of adjustment
Do you already have friends at this new school? Keep in mind that if you transfer, it will take some time to make friends, and you might feel lonely or isolated for a bit. You will also need to adjust to a new group of teachers and their teaching styles, as well as the structure of the school and its classes.
You didn’t mention what grade you’re in, but that is also a big factor in whether you should move schools. Are you close to taking the IB exam or DSE? Is it worth it to disrupt your learning and switch schools? Would the new school’s curriculum better prepare you for public exams?
I’m under a lot of pressure and don’t know why I need to study so much
Talk to the people around you
Of course, you should talk to your parents about what they think. Is it possible to speak to someone at the new school? A current student could provide insight into whether you would be a good fit. Ask your friends if they know someone at this new school and if you could speak to them.
Switching schools is a big decision; make sure to examine all sides of the issue so that you can make the best decision for yourself!
Best of luck, Friend of a friend
The question was answered by clinical psychologists from the Department of Health under Shall We Talk, a mental health initiative launched with the Advisory Committee on Mental Health.