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Chang Zi Qian

A friend who is three years into her doctoral programme in the San Francisco Bay Area texted me the other day to say she had finally figured out what was different about living in the US.
“I don’t need to perform any more. I am allowed to just … exist.”
Naturally, I asked for elaboration.
She said that back home in China, every decision she made came with an interview she did not sign up for. Every Chinese New Year, some relative would probe into her personal life with forensic precision. In America, on the other hand, nobody’s uncle asks anything.
I laughed, because I had heard versions of this from different people since I came to Berkeley. And every time, my instinct would be to blame Confucius, a man who has been dead for 2,500 years and whose core professional achievement has been making an entire civilisation feel obligated and stressed. Even now, he is still shaping the Chinese group psyche.
The funny thing is, as I am typing this, the idea of criticising Confucius actually makes me pause with guilt. Writing an article questioning his role in shaping our civilisational psyche feels like heresy, and my internal brakes engaged automatically. How dare I do something so outrageous!

But here’s the thing. If judged by the standards of his own time, the Chinese philosopher wasn’t up to the mark. He spent years touring different states and pitching his vision of benevolent governance to different dukes – much like a start-up founder, but with little success. Historical accounts describe how, at one particularly low point, he was spotted standing alone at a city gate and looking like a dejected “dog from a family in mourning”, a description he himself famously agreed with.
It took a few centuries before he could be effectively rebranded as an “exemplary teacher for tens of thousands of generations”. It was not Confucius who built the cult of Confucius. Instead, it was a Han dynasty official named Dong Zhongshu, who made Confucianism the state ideology and advocated a hierarchical society. In this system, roles such as ruler or subject, father or son, teacher or student are meticulously prescribed, so everyone just needs to perform according to the script handed to them and make sure the person above them is OK with their performance.
It is a genuinely elegant piece of social engineering. And here’s the part nobody says out loud: everyone is perpetually, quietly trying to be the director, and they secretly hope there is no one above them. Every Chinese person wants to be the one writing the script, as opposed to just reading from it.
This is most evident at home, where parents lecture their children incessantly, usually along a one-way street. Then there is lecturing as a competitive sport, with uncles correcting nephews, seniors admonishing juniors and strangers correcting one another. The grand arena of mutual lecturing, of course, is the online forum.
Once you enter, you will find quite a few people who think they know how to perform your role better than you. The moment you step out of line, all these self-appointed directors will rush in to magnify your misstep and readily have something negative to say.
Here’s the part nobody says out loud: everyone is perpetually, quietly trying to be the director ... Every Chinese person wants to be the one writing the script, as opposed to just reading from it

Sadly, although nearly every Chinese person wants to be their own director, almost nobody actually gets to be one. The genius of the system is how every performer is convinced that if they perform well enough, want it enough and make enough sacrifices, people around them will leave them alone and they will eventually get to wield the pen and write the script for others.
Most of them never do.
Therefore, when my friends tell me they can just “exist” or “be” themselves in the United States, what they are really saying is: they now have the option to stop performing. Almost nobody I know moved here for the dirty streets, wilful public transport system and expensive Asian food.
They are here to live the unwatched life. Here, there is no audience running a silent audit of how you behave, no perpetual appraisal of your earning power, your waistline, your marital status or your choice of partners, and no disapproval of you daring to sit down on public transport without earning it first.
It’s a small freedom, but dignifying. It just happens to be the kind of thing a very orderly society hasn’t got around to offering in thousands of years.
Confucius would probably disapprove of the case I am making, while Dong Zhongshu might be disappointed. Both might find it hard to understand why people would want to stop performing by choosing America. Quite likely, they would expect me to shut up and fall in line, wherever the line has been drawn for me.


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A view of Lieshen village in Chongqing on August 15. Photo: Xinhua


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Chinese family names can be romanised according to Wade-Giles, pinyin or ancestral dialects. Pictured are laisee embossed with the surnames pronounced zhang, chang and zeng in Mandarin, which could all correspond to the romanisation of Chang depending on whether one is more familiar with Wade-Giles, pinyin or dialect transliterations. Photo: Sun Yeung 

People walk along Cavenagh Bridge, the oldest bridge across the Singapore River dating back to the British colonial era, in 2021. In Southeast Asian countries like Singapore, the spelling of Chinese surnames has been shaped by migration history, colonial administration decisions and community traditions. Photo: AFP

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People cross a street in Westminster, London on May 12. Photo: EPA-EFE

People enjoy Chinese and Vietnamese food at the East and Southeast Asian Community Centre in London on January 31. Photo: AFP

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People walk past a mural of a Chinese letter writer in Chinatown in Singapore in February 2021. Photo: AFP

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US Democratic presidential candidate Andrew Yang celebrates after receiving red packets for his children from a supporter during a town hall meeting at Penn Central Mall in Oskaloosa, Iowa, over Lunar New Year in January 2020. Photo: AFP

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A woman with a child attends a New Year’s Eve countdown yoga session at Singapore’s Marina Bay in 2016. Photo: Xinhua 


At lunchtime, office workers sit along a quay in Raffles Place, in Singapore’s business district in 2023. China’s 996 work culture has been exported to Singapore, as Chinese tech companies expand overseas. Photo: AFP

Commuters navigate a subway station during rush hour in Beijing in 2021. Photo: AFP

People walk down Nanjing Road, the main shopping area in Shanghai, on May 1. In China, the tide is turning against 996 work culture, as the economy pivots towards consumption. Photo: EPA-EFE

Once a Chinese frog in a well, I’m now living my travel dreams

The unspoken reason my Chinese friends choose America

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When friends say they can just ‘exist’ in the US, they mean they can stop performing to the Confucian expectations that define Chinese life