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Is a toxic ex love bombing you this season? It could be a case of ‘winter coating’

  • ‘We get lazy in the winter, and it’s comfortable to have somebody right here with you without having to go hunting for someone new,’ a relationship expert says
  • Reaching back out to an ex is a popular, often convenient option – but it can be hurtful and damaging. Here is what to watch for

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Beware the toxic ex who comes calling to have a date for the holiday season but may easily discard you again. Experts explain how to avoid potential heartbreak. Photo: Shutterstock

It is that time of the year again: cuffing season.

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As the temperature drops and the holidays roll in, the search for a temporary cuddle buddy begins. But this season, relationship experts are warning about another toxic, seasonal dating trend on the rise.

It is called “winter coating” and has over 300,000 views on social media platform TikTok. The trend involves rekindling a relationship with an ex during the winter only to discard them, like a coat, in the spring. Often it is to escape loneliness and get through the cold, dark months.

“We get lazy in the winter, and it’s comfortable to have somebody right here with you without having to go hunting for someone new,” explains Susan Winter, a relationship expert based in New York. It does not help that single people feel pressure from family members and friends to be partnered at holiday gatherings.

Dating Games: 'Winter Coating' @SusanWinter

Reaching back out to an ex is a popular, often convenient option – but experts warn it can be hurtful and damaging.

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