Dating and job hunting – success in both relies on the same concepts
Whether you are looking for a life partner or a new professional path, there are rules that apply in both areas that make you more likely to achieve your goal
You may not think it, but there are a lot of similarities between looking for a job and looking for a significant other. Sure, there are differences – probably best not to end an interview with a hug, for example, and definitely don’t go in for a kiss – but the similarities are worth noting.
If you want advice on howto score a second date or interview, here are five top tips.
1 First impressions are everything
Whether we like it or not, we only have one chance to make a first impression, and there’s no taking it back. Yes, a company and potential mate should love you for who you are; however, when people first meet you, they don’t yet know the real you; they only know the you sitting in front of them, or preferably next to them (it makes having an intimate conversation easier).
Put simply: dress to impress for the situation. Going for a clean and put-together look can send a great first impression. This actually allows for the other person to concentrate on what you are saying and not on what you are wearing.
A few additional pointers to keep in mind:
- DO wear something that makes you feel confident and attractive.
- DON’T wear something you took out of your hamper.
- DO dress in a style that’s “you”.
- DON’T second-guess your fashion choice once you’re on the date or interview. Own it.
- DO have a few go-to outfits ready so you never have to stress out about it.
- DON’T forget that your clothes will never outweigh hygiene.
2 Identify whether their goals align with yours
As a brunette, how would it make you feel if a date indicated, while on the date, that he or she really preferred redheads? On the other hand, why would an employer hire you if you indicate your real passion is acting but you are applying for a research role?
Although honesty is key, it is best to keep answers about the future open-ended. This is one of the top reasons that companies pass on candidates, and you certainly are not setting yourself up for success in dating with these types of closed-minded responses.
It’s best to keep doors open and then close them if and when you’re ready.